What Actually Happens In a Notice. Name. Nurture. Session?
What Actually Happens in a Notice. Name. Nurture. Session?
You've read about parts work. Maybe you've even done some version of it. Journaling about your inner critic, identifying patterns, recognizing where certain behaviors come from. That's valuable work. But reading about parts work and experiencing it live are two very different things.
If you're curious about Notice. Name. Nurture. but aren't quite sure what you'd be walking into, this is for you.
The Setup
NNN meets on Zoom, in a live group format. Sessions run 90 minutes. You don't need to prepare anything. You don't need to have your "stuff" organized or figured out before you arrive. In fact, arriving a little unorganized is perfectly fine (that's often where the most honest work lives).
How a Session Unfolds
At the start of each session, you'll have the opportunity to identify a part you'd like to work with. It might be your anxiety. The part that won't let you stop eating at 11pm even though you're not hungry. The part that keeps you small when opportunity knocks. You don't have to come in knowing which part, sometimes just showing up and getting quiet is enough for something to surface.
You don't have to identify a part at all, actually. But why wouldn't you? This is your 90 minutes too.
From there, I'll guide the whole group through a series of questions. It is a kind of loosely structured interview with your part. You take notes. You sit with what comes up. No one is asking you to share, perform, or have anything figured out. The questions do the work of gently turning you toward whatever is present.
Then I work one-on-one with volunteers from the group to deepen the work — taking what the questions began and going further. Exploring. Listening. Letting the part say what it's been trying to say.
What the Work Actually Looks Like
Imagine you're an elementary school teacher at recess, and somewhere out on that playground a child is crying. You can hear it. You can feel the distress. But the playground is big, and you don't yet know who it is, or what happened, or what they need.
Your job isn't to diagnose the situation from a distance. Your job is to walk toward the sound with patience, with care, with no agenda other than finding out who's hurting and what they need.
That is what a parts work session looks like from the inside.
We don't begin by trying to fix or override what's happening. We begin with curiosity: who is this? What does this part want me to know? Sometimes a part reveals itself quickly. Sometimes it takes a little more patience and coaxing. What almost never happens is nothing because these parts have been waiting, often for a very long time, to simply be noticed.
About the Witnessing
Here is something I want you to know, especially if you're private, or hesitant, or not sure you're ready to volunteer: watching this work is not passive.
When you've just spent time with your own part, whether that is sitting with it, asking it questions, starting to hear what it has to say, and then you watch someone else do that same work live, something deepens. Your own system is still listening. Your own part is still present. And the one-on-one work happening in front of you very often illuminates something in your own experience that the questions alone didn't reach.
This is not accidental. It is one of the reasons I designed NNN as a group experience rather than individual sessions. We heal in community in ways we simply cannot replicate alone.
What Shifts
When a part finally feels seen instead of being managed, argued with, or overridden something in the system relaxes. It doesn't always look dramatic. Sometimes it's a deep breath. Sometimes it's tears. Sometimes it's a quiet oh- the moment a person realizes they've been at war with a part of themselves that was only ever trying to help.
That relaxation, that recognition, is what makes sustainable change possible. Not more understanding. Not more effort. Just a little more listening.
What It Is Not
NNN is not therapy, though it is therapeutically informed. It is not a lecture or a course. It is not about performing insight or arriving with the right answers. It is a live, boundaried, soul-centered space where real work happens and where you are welcome exactly as you are, including the parts you're not sure about yet.
Come and See
The first three sessions are $25 each — intentionally low, because I want the barrier to entry to be as small as possible. I want you to be able to simply come and see.
Sessions begin May 27th.